Five ways Six Feet Under helps me cope with death
This post might get a little esoteric, but I’ll just lay it out there and, as always, you can either take it or leave it. If you don’t like talk about death and dying, stop reading here.
If I was asked to say just one thing about Six Feet Under, it’s that they don’t shirk from anything. The Fisher family is complex and messy, but the writers and actors put it all out there, whether it’s gay sex, drugs, mental illness, or, of course, death.
That last one is a good thing for me, because I go to a lot of funerals. In the past few years, I’ve lost two aunts, a dad, a father-in-law, a grandma, a sister-in-law, two cousins, and at least two dozen friends. I’ve written scores of obituaries and played my violin for dozens of funerals. I’m on a first-name basis with most of the funeral directors in town. And you know what? It’s OK! Six Feet Under has helped me to see that. Read on for five ways the show helps me cope with death.
1. The show makes it “OK” to die. Six Feet Under’s tagline says it all: “Everything. Everyone. Everywhere. Ends.” As soon as we come to grips with that, it makes life easier. After all, we’ll die some day, too. Maybe sooner than we think. Since I didn’t grow up in a funeral home like the Fishers, I used to hate the idea of death. But I’ve gotten more comfortable with it in recent years. Part of this is the sheer number of funerals I attend. It’s not that I’ve gotten numb to it, but rather that I accept that everything ends.
2. You can choose not to grieve. In the second episode of season five, “Dancing For Me,” a high school buddy of Nate’s gets run over by a truck. During the funeral, Nate meets another former buddy and they get together for drinks. While talking about the death of their friend, Nate said he was tired of grieving and didn’t want to do it anymore. He just wanted to make every moment of life count. I get that. If I carried the grief of everyone I’ve lost in recent years, I’d go hide in a cave and never come out.
3. People die in lots of various ways. While most of the people I’ve lost haven’t died in such “colorful” ways as the folks on Six Feet Under, they’ve certainly run the gamut — drunk drivers, icy-road crashes, suicides, terminal illnesses, and old age. When you’ve lived in the same community for 40-some years, you get to know people. The older generation dies off. People come and go. It’s a fact of life. And if there’s one thing Six Feet Under touts, it’s that people are going to die, and there’s not one thing we can do about it. Nowhere is that more clear than the pilot episode, where Nathanial Fisher Sr. dies in a tragic car crash, sending the family into a turmoil of change.
4. It gives you a new appreciation for life. As cliché as it sounds, experiencing a lot of death has given me an appreciation for life. Of course, I grieve, but the fact that I have so many people in my life to grieve for is a blessing. Yes, I miss the people, but I’m happy to have had them in my life. It’s a beautiful thing.
5. It helps you put things in perspective. I started watching Six Feet Under during a particularly funeral-laden part of last winter, and there’s something about watching funeral directors deal with death on a daily basis that helped me put things in perspective. I guess Alan Ball felt that way, too, since he created the series after losing his sister.
So, hey, if you’re in one of those inevitable periods where you’re losing a lot of people, try watching Six Feet Under. It could be very cathartic.
For Sale! Brit’s Mickey Mouse Memorabilia
Long before there was “Oops, I Did It Again” and her subsequent public meltdowns, little Britney Spears was a squeaky-clean castmember of the Mickey Mouse Club.
Now you can own a piece of that innocent history. Find out how!
A Mickey Mouse Club T-shirt that Spears owned and gifted to one of her grandmothers will be up for auction later this month from New York’s Gotta Have It memorabilia site. It’s expected to go for as much as $20,000 because it’s also signed by fellow castmembers, including Justin Timberlake, Christina Aguilera and Keri Russell.
Why she gave it to her grandmother, I don’t know, but the future pop star signed it, “I love you grandma.”
Also on the block will be one of Madonna’s daily planners from the late-’80s. That should fetch between $9,000 and $11,000, according to an auction rep.
GottaHaveIt.com’s Rock & Roll Pop Art Auction starts July 21.
Heidi Klum and Family Do Greenwich Village
Heidi Klum and Family Do Greenwich Village
The paparazzi in New York City have been getting an eyeful of Heidi Klum as of late. And yesterday she was out and about with her family once again.
The Project Runway babe was joined by her mother and kids, Johan and Leni, on a beautiful Friday afternoon stroll through Manhattan’s trendy Greenwich Village.
And while Klum dutifully pushed Johan around in his stroller, Grandma tended to Leni, making sure she didn’t get swept away in the big city hustle and bustle.
While she’s in NYC, Heidi has also reportedly been real estate shopping, as she recently sold her Manhattan apartment for a whopping $5.35 million. Who says the market is down?
A source told press that Klum is looking for a larger home to accommodate her family. “She’s very family-oriented and needs a lot more space for nannies and visiting relatives.”
Heidi Klum Plays, Seal Snaps Away
Heidi Klum Plays, Seal Snaps Away
Continuing to enjoy her time in New York City, Heidi Klum and family checked out a playground in the Big Apple’s West Village on Saturday afternoon (June 21).
According to an insider on the scene, “The kids had a blast spending the day with mom and grandma Erna. Daughter Leni, who looks just like Heidi, has taken to copying her style as well! On the same arm as mom’s new tribal mark, Leni had a cute little butterfly.”
Meanwhile, with his family on the east coast, Seal found himself testing out a new occupation to bide his lonesome time back home in Malibu.
The “Kiss From a Rose” singer was spotted dining at Nobu, where he then decided to have a bit of fun and turn his cameras on the photographers. With two film and one video camera in tow, the Grammy-winning soul singer snapped away while looking more equipped than most pros!